Silence is a powerful tool. Knowing when to break it is even more powerful.

Can you ever fall in love with a person or can you only ever love the idea of the person, what you imagine the person to be?

It is yet another question that Perception raises, but it is an interesting one nevertheless. After all, what can we possibly know about a person? How he or she acts in different observed situations. Oftentimes these situations' variation is rather limited, we meet the people in similar places, do similar things. Couple that with the known fact that people act differently not only in different places, but also when surrounded by different people (or when alone altogether) and you get a sad knowledge that you might not know the people around you as well as you think you do.

With love the matter is even more complicated. So you might not know your friends as well is it could be possible, you know them well enough. You become friends with them, get to know them better, and depending on whether you prefer them to be your friends or not, stop being friends with them (no need to make enemies, just keep them as acquaintances). Many friendships linger in the limbo without any decisive action taken. But love, now that is a bit more difficult to stop.

The problem with falling in love with or having a crush on someone is that usually the object of obsession becomes highly idealized. We become blind or extremely tolerant concerning his or her (or their) faults while praising their positive characteristics, sometimes even those that the person in question does not possess. In doing so, we fall in love with the idea of the person, not the person itself. But you cannot hold an idea, you cannot kiss an idea, and it is not an idea that we miss. It is the person. But is it right to be with someone about whom you have an image you know to be false? In fact, does it even matter?

If you know you have a mistaken understanding of the person of interest then you know you have a choice. Either stick around and see what the person is like in reality or leave and cherish the ideal image of the person. After all, reality can be harsh. Even you might be thought of as possibly daft so why hang around and remove all doubt? Do you really want to ruin the ideal picture of the person that catches your fancy or that of yours? And in the case of love, do you even have the choice of ever walking away?

Sometimes the idea may be better than reality, but sometimes reality is better than anything you could have dreamt about.